01
Catch the calm.
Praise specifically when your child is doing the thing you want to see more of — not just when they stop doing what you don’t. ‘I love how you’re using your gentle hands’ teaches more than ‘stop hitting’.
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02
First / then.
Pair a less-preferred task with a preferred one using a simple ‘first shoes, then park’ structure. Visuals help. Predictability lowers the stakes for everyone.
03
Lower the bar to raise it.
If a request reliably ends in meltdown, the request is too big. Break it down until your child can succeed, then layer the difficulty back in gradually.
04
Behavior is communication.
Ask what the behavior is telling you before asking how to stop it. Escape, attention, access, sensory — the function shapes the response.
05
Reinforcement is not bribery.
Bribery happens after a problem behavior starts. Reinforcement is planned in advance, tied to a clear expectation, and faded over time as the new behavior takes hold.
06
Repair, don’t lecture.
When things go sideways, regulate first, repair second, teach third. Lectures land best on calm nervous systems — including ours.
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